“I will write about it when it is time,” an answer that what I would like to imply was, “I do not have any plans to expose myself that much to public!”

But after days of watching the clock ticks indoor  and after watching a number of chick flicks (because of the heavy rains and flood outside), I realized that love and relationship may something that interest other people but it is such a sensitive topic. An issue that branches from one story to another, from one triumph to another, from failure to betrayal to pain and vulnerability. Am I too cynical about this? Or perhaps I am just watching too much movies.

Love and relationship are two good things, they trigger happy hormones to work and send signals to our brain that brings us to a state of euphoria.   Love involves emotion and relationship involves people. It touches the soul and heart deep down and so when these two beautiful things shatter; it will also drag us deep down.

I have seen lives shattered, walls built, bitterness shown upfront and friendships ended because of love.

But I have also seen a hopeless man ignited to reach for his dreams, a wounded woman living a life of fullness and two different individuals compliment their differences for the sake of love.

Love is not the perpetrator of pain but the inadequacy of knowledge on what love really is. Love is a grace that brings us more than euphoria but will bring us to fullness, it is not supposed to degrade our value but it is supposed to magnify our

I have read a book many years ago which the author wrote, “the standard of love is the impossible love that Christ shown at the cross”.  If I could have taken the author’s wisdom sincerely, my journey would not have been that complicated. J

We are all created in God’s image and likeness (Gen 1:27) and because it is His nature to love, we too are created to love. So it is not a surprise that you fall in love with someone.  But because we are created in God’s image and likeness, it is not our nature to neither become a depressed melancholic hiding away from other people after the relationship ended nor become a ruthless bitter cynic after getting hurt from loving. You may be hurt now but it is not yet the end of the world; the sun will still shine tomorrow, the world will still revolve around its axis, the season will still change.

Time will not heal wounds but love does, I am not entailing on finding a rebound love ‘because it certainly will not help. What I am inferring is, go back to the Source of love.  God understands what is it to get hurt after loving for Christ showed it unto us at the cross.

Love is such a beautiful thing but you have to be chary or else you will be sorry….

Wait for the right time

Do the right thing

Value yourself and the person  you love 

Do not lose yourself in the process of loving, remain in His love.

It took me years of bitterness, countless bouts with myself and periods of fight against depression & insecurities, to realize all  these.  

“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flows the wellspring of life” – Proverbs 4:34